Edit: thanks everyone for the suggestions!
Do keep them coming as it might be helpful for others who come across this, since it seems quite a few users are (understandably) bleeding from lemmy.world these days, like myself

I was looking for a solid instance to move to, but I’m getting burned out from trying to find the perfect instance that:

  • is based in a country with reasonable privacy reputation (if it still fits the bill, outside Europe too is fine)
  • allows creating communities without admin approval (I’m willing to try getting into one of those too if needed, hopefully it would be accepting of creating niche communities though)
  • doesn’t defederate indiscriminately

The tool I used is lemmyverse.net but it seems the filtering isn’t working great, or I just don’t understand it, e.g. I filter by Italian language and the only Italian instance I know (feddit.it) doesn’t show up, while a slew of irrelevant ones is listed (Lemmy Português is there??)

Sorry if I sound so needy, maybe I’m just overthinking it, since posts are public and indexable by anyone. Do say so, if I should chill out and just pick one of the usual ones like lemm.ee etc.

P.S. I would love to self-host, but I’m currently not able to either, I don’t have enough technical expertise.

    • QuazarOmega@lemmy.worldOPEnglish
      3·
      11 months ago

      feddit.it

      Yeah I don’t know how to feel about it, if I could create communities but I was restricted to keep them Italian only, then I’d be cutting out a large part of the population.

      I’ll take feddit.de into consideration tho

      • AbsolutelyNotABot@feddit.itEnglish
        6·
        11 months ago

        You’re not, we also have English communities like https://feddit.it/c/askitaly And you’re free to make post in English in italian communities using the English tag

        The only thing they have at registration is that you need to write a sentence in “some regional italian slang” And that’s basically serve the purpose to restrict a little bit sign in not to finish like lemmy.world targeting italian speakers

        But it’s actually pretty easy

        • QuazarOmega@lemmy.worldOPEnglish
          3·
          11 months ago

          Oh that makes sense actually, it’s an interesting admission process, I would probably (totally) gravely offend my culture if I tried writing in my dialect that I already barely speak, but I’ll pay the price if have to lol

    • gelberhut@lemdro.idEnglish
      2·
      11 months ago

      Freddie.de is a solid choice. But if you want to create an generic, english-speaking community think twice. I saw many people assume that all community on Freddie.dr are regional. To the level that some wanted to block whole instance because they were not interested in Germany local topics.

      Another question: what kind of privacy protection do you expect from a Lemmy instance? Cannot think about anything private here.

      • z3n0x@feddit.deEnglish
        1·
        11 months ago

        Definitely. Am German living abroad, so it’s a great instance for keeping up with local stuff.

        As for privacy, I don’t expect anything to be private anywhere on the internet. But for a lemmy instance I’d hope that the admins are a) running it on secure infrastructure (firewalled, etc.) and b) they’re not just handing off email addresses to the biggest bidder.

        • gelberhut@lemdro.idEnglish
          1·
          11 months ago

          Definitely. Am German living abroad, so it’s a great instance for keeping up with local stuff.

          Then feddit.de sounds like a best choice for you :). BTW, you do not need to have an account on feddit.de to subscribe and participate any community “hosted” there. So keeping up with local stuff is relatively instance independent (but there are nuances, still :( )

          As for privacy, I don’t expect anything to be private anywhere on the internet. But for a lemmy instance I’d hope that the admins are a) running it on secure infrastructure (firewalled, etc.) and b) they’re not just handing off email addresses to the biggest bidder.

          I see. For me this sounds like security, rather then privacy. Anyways, I assume that feddit.de meets your criteria again - it is hosted in Germany and, as far as I remember, says that follows German laws (what covers “reasonable” security/privacy requirement).

    • QuazarOmega@lemmy.worldOPEnglish
      2·
      11 months ago

      Thanks for the suggestions!

      I think you may be looking for smaller servers.

      Indeed, that’s the objective, outages aside, spreading out the load will do good in any case I hope :)

  • nothacking@discuss.tchncs.deEnglish
    14·
    11 months ago

    discuss.tchnics.de is quite lenient when it comes to defederation, only defederating instances that host content illegal under German law (CP, Nazi shit) and blatant calls for violence (Nazi shit) or massive spamming. Based in Germany so somewhat decent privacy (still in the 14 eyes). Main languages are English and German, but others are permitted.

    Keep in mind that Lemmy as a whole provides very little privacy, with any instance being able to log almost all activity.

    Also, images are not proxies by default so you can do this:

    An image that tells you where you live based on your GeoIP location

  • Meldrik@lemmy.wtfEnglish
    11·
    11 months ago

    Lemmy.wtf is hosted on my own hardware in Denmark. I do require users to first request a community, before it gets created though.

  • lily33@lemm.eeEnglish
    11·
    11 months ago

    AFAIK lemm.ee fits all your requirements, what don’t you like about it?

    Edit: Maybe I’m wrong. It’s run by Estonians, but looking up its IP, it point to the US, so maybe it’s not hosted in the EU.

    • sunaurus@lemm.eeEnglish
      26·
      11 months ago

      Our frontend is globally distributed (so if you’re in the US, you get it from a US server), but the backend server and user data are hosted in the EU.

      • QuazarOmega@lemmy.worldOPEnglish
        5·
        11 months ago

        Oh I see, thanks for specifying! I didn’t look too much into it at first and just assumed it was US based (now that I think about it I don’t even know why lol), I’ll keep it in my list

      • mhz@lemmy.worldEnglish
        2·
        11 months ago

        Thanks for clarifying, I’m also considering migrating from lemmy.world and I’m considering lemm.ee, would you recommend that for someone located in north africa (Morocco)? Will i get latency problems? My last concern is should I worry about it degenerating (i still dont get exactly how instances work)?

        • sunaurus@lemm.eeEnglish
          2·
          11 months ago

          I think latency should be pretty decent thanks to our global CDN, but I think in the end you should just try it out and compare it to some other instances to get the best picture.

  • Tibert@compuverse.ukEnglish
    4·
    11 months ago

    I don’t know about the privacy in UK, but privacy on Lemmy is… Pretty much inexistent.

    Tho maybe the email Adresses could maybe be stored privately somehow.

    My instance compuverse.uk runs most of the time. Tho the servers are not giant, and there was already an issue where the storage filled up completely before an upgrade had to be made.

    Tho now it would be running on a separate storage dedicated server which may allow for more storage.

    Also the rules on this instance makes it pretty much compatible with every other instance and so would avoid the defederation by other instances. (please just don’t put porn or gore in the all).

  • Hank@kbin.social
    4·
    11 months ago

    Can someone hook me up with shitty Balkan memes? I love to watch them talk shit about each other but I guess they’re probably not the kind of crowd that ends up on Lemmy.

  • iso@lemy.lolEnglish
    2·
    11 months ago

    Self-promoting, my instance :) Hosted on Hetzner (Germany), allows creating community, doesn’t defederate indiscriminately :) Open to polite, chill and modern people.

    Aside from mine, I like lemmings.world, lemdit.com and lemm.ee