• PlasticExistence@lemmy.worldEnglish
    36·
    10 个月前

    • It’s possible to make no errors and still lose.

    • Some people are dealt a worse hand in life than others and some people are better at playing their hand than others, so don’t assume you know why people are the way they are.

    • Patient compassion will never make you look like a jerk, but snap judgements will.

  • Drunemeton@lemmy.worldEnglish
    29·
    10 个月前
    1. Be comfortable in your own skin.
    2. Know why you have boundaries, and keep the good ones.
    3. They either want you to listen, or to help. They rarely want both.
    4. It’s only a “Teaching Moment” if they want to be taught. Otherwise you’re just annoying.
    5. Try not to confuse politeness for friendship.
    6. Chew each bite of food into a paste before swallowing, with your eating utensil on the table or the hand meal out of your hand.
    7. The true you is the you that you do when no one’s watching. (See #1…)
    8. A happy life is 51% happy. Settle for nothing less, strive for something sustainably more.
    9. If you’re feeling depressed take a step back and make sure you haven’t accidentally surrounded yourself with assholes.
    10. Only ever brush and floss the teeth you want in your head when you’re old.
  • Khotetsu@lib.lgbtEnglish
    18·
    10 个月前

    Sheer spite is a perfectly valid reason to continue to get out of bed in the morning.

    Nobody on their deathbed has ever said, “I wish I spent more time in the office.”

    A battle you don’t have to fight is a battle won. But if you do have to hurt somebody, hurt them bad enough that they won’t get back up. Otherwise, they’re very likely to come right back at you.

  • mhmmm@feddit.de
    18·
    10 个月前

    When you feel the burnout building up, you really should not try to stick it out “just until this project is done and I can get some rest”…

    • Swagicus@lemmy.world
      6·
      10 个月前

      Would you mind elaborating on this? I just recently have been struggling with massive burnout at my job, amplified by being stuck on the same project by myself for 1 year+, team being understaffed, and inconsistent expectations from stakeholders.

      • Maalus@lemmy.world
        6·
        10 个月前

        More work is never the answer to burnout. If you are burnt out, it won’t get better. Even if something happens to change the current situation, it wouldn’t feel as good when you are burnt out.

      • mhmmm@feddit.de
        1·
        10 个月前

        I was in a very similar position during 2022. It’s a perfect burnout recipe, chronic stressors everywhere and no power to change them. I could feel it building, but was still able to work and the personal stakes were high, so I wanted to make it to the end (which would have been in early 2023). I didn’t. I had a break-down in fall, I couldn’t do anything anymore (no focus, no energy, really bad memory, lots of mistakes at work). I took sick leave and have been in recovery since, and still don’t feel really alright. I have met people who went further than me and have done themselves really bad, and even physical damage doing so - psyche and body feel different, but they are parts of the same organism, and to overtax one is to overtax the other.

        In no way was it worth it. I would have chosen differently if I had known what the later stages of burnout felt like.

        I really mean it - if it’s in any way feasible and you’ve exhausted other pathways to change inside your role, quit before your body does it for you.

  • rippersnapper@lemm.ee
    15·
    10 个月前

    Nobody is coming to save you. Nobody. If you want help, ask. If you don’t want to ask, learn to save yourself.

  • Raging LibTarg@lemmy.worldEnglish
    141·
    10 个月前

    Don’t waste your time keeping toxic “friends” around. People who exhibit behaviors that demonstrate a low maturity level at an age where they could/should have grown out of it twice aren’t going to by the time they drive you insane.

  • lightnsfw@reddthat.com
    10·
    10 个月前

    No one has to care about you. No one has to be nice to you. No one has to be fair to you. Expecting otherwise is just going to leave you open to getting fucked over. People are only out for themselves and if you don’t want to be taken advantage of you have to watch your own ass.

  • RozhkiNozhki@lemmy.world
    9·
    10 个月前

    When life brings you to the point where you cannot sweat the small stuff anymore, it’s liberating and you better keep it as a habit. I did.

    • OceanSoap@lemmy.ml
      3·
      10 个月前

      I’ll never forget the day I realized I was just exhausted at being angry all the time. I was holding onto so many grudges, something my mom does.

      It took me down a path or learning why I was so mad at everything and what to do to fix that.