• Blake [he/him]@feddit.uk
    link
    fedilink
    arrow-up
    118
    arrow-down
    11
    ·
    9 months ago

    Hijacking your thread to advocate for my lazy ideology. Disclaimer I have pretty severe ADHD so this might be extreme for most people but for me this makes life liveable.

    Forget trying to make things look super tidy and neat like in an IKEA commercial. Make your living space functional, comfortable and easy to maintain. Reduce the amount of physical, mental and emotional effort required to maintain your environment. For example, for laundry:

    1. Don’t iron anything unless you really need/want to. (Job interview, going on a date, appearing in court, etc.)
    2. Anywhere you’re liable to undress, have a basket for dirty clothes. It should be open-topped (no lid!) and mobile, like a laundry basket, so when you need to do a load of laundry, you can pick up and use the whole basket - functioning both as the hamper and the basket. Bedroom and bathroom are the usual places for this! You want the act of tossing dirty clothes in the laundry to be just as easy as tossing it on the floor.
    3. There’s no such thing as odd socks. They’re called mix ‘n’ match socks now. Like Mashems!
    4. No neatly folded clothes or hangers or anything like that, except for very special things such as in point 1 - everything just gets dumped into big drawers based on category. I have little fabric boxes that fit into a kallax to keep this relatively neat looking but super easy.
    5. If something can’t survive going in the washing machine mixed load cycle and the tumble dryer daily load, it is not welcome in my life. (There’s a similar rule about the dishwasher!)

    You get the idea. Embrace your laziness, don’t bother yourself with half a second what people might think of how you live. This is surprisingly neat and orderly and takes almost no effort to maintain. If you keep finding your basket is misplaced, buy another basket and keep it in two places. Stop fighting the current and go with your flow. Accept who you are, even if you’re a lazy bitch like me!

    • lunchboxhero@lemmy.sdf.org
      link
      fedilink
      arrow-up
      10
      ·
      9 months ago

      So, let me get this right, you don’t fold your clothes? Rather you just crumple them up and put them in the drawer?

      I never thought of this as a viable solution but I am going to try it out! Folding laundry is my #1 chore left undone. I end up “living out of the basket” and nothing is ever done.

      • Blake [he/him]@feddit.uk
        link
        fedilink
        arrow-up
        17
        ·
        9 months ago

        You’re absolutely right. I don’t fold shit. If I need to wear a proper shirt then I’ll iron it when I need it, but usually just wear T-Shirts & polo shirts, so it doesn’t matter.

        Yep, just give yourself permission to live out of the basket and put the basket on a shelf. It’s tidier and you don’t feel as bad about it.

        • Mario_Dies.wav@lemmy.dbzer0.com
          link
          fedilink
          arrow-up
          8
          ·
          9 months ago

          I like you. My husband has ADHD and he does the same thing. I fold my own clothes because it’s relaxing for me, but no one should feel like they have to.

          • Blake [he/him]@feddit.uk
            link
            fedilink
            arrow-up
            6
            ·
            9 months ago

            Thank you, and yes, absolutely, sometimes I go beyond this as well (for example, I’ll decide to pair up some socks) but it’s always an added extra bonus, not an expectation that I’m failing to meet. Psychology matters as much as anything!

        • klemptor@lemmy.ml
          link
          fedilink
          arrow-up
          1
          ·
          9 months ago

          But don’t your clothes get all wrinkly that way? I’m a neat freak and I can’t imagine living like that lol

          • CrabLord@beehaw.org
            link
            fedilink
            English
            arrow-up
            3
            ·
            9 months ago

            In my experience, I don’t care about wrinkles. Usually nothing is too wrinkly unless it’s been buried for a while. Once I started putting the clothes in the drawers they were significantly less wrinkly.

          • Blake [he/him]@feddit.uk
            link
            fedilink
            arrow-up
            1
            ·
            9 months ago

            No, I mostly just wear t shirts and polo shirts and it doesn’t get wrinkly at all. It appears very neat until you open the drawer, and I’m the only one who does that anyways.

    • TheLemming@feddit.de
      link
      fedilink
      arrow-up
      8
      ·
      9 months ago

      When this asklemmy question pops up the next time again, asking What are your saved posts and comments here on lemmy, this one is the one I’m sharing then

      • Blake [he/him]@feddit.uk
        link
        fedilink
        arrow-up
        4
        arrow-down
        1
        ·
        9 months ago

        Thank you, but beware, as your new brother for life has some crazy hot takes and likes to argue a lot on the internet even though he probably shouldn’t. Lots of sibling responsibility! Although I don’t know which of us is the big brother / little brother.

        • funkajunk@lemm.ee
          link
          fedilink
          English
          arrow-up
          2
          ·
          9 months ago

          If you are also an adult, I don’t think big/little brother matters any more. I’m also 6’1" & 220 lbs., so I haven’t been called “little” in a very long time.

          Hit me with your craziest, hottest take - I can handle it!

          • Blake [he/him]@feddit.uk
            link
            fedilink
            arrow-up
            1
            ·
            9 months ago

            I always wanted a big brother, though! I quickly checked your profile and saw you mentioned mid 30s, which makes you a little older than me, so I guess wish granted… although I am 6’4" and closer to 250lbs, so I guess we’re both big brothers-es. :P

            Hit me with your craziest, hottest take - I can handle it!

            It’s probably against the rules of this community and potentially against the law, so I’ll just say that I disagree with a value which Gandhi and Martin Luther King share, and that I agree with some, but not all, of Malcolm X’s beliefs.

    • RBWells@lemmy.world
      link
      fedilink
      arrow-up
      1
      ·
      6 months ago

      Late to this, but except for folding (or hanging up) clothes, this is my laundry strategy. Don’t own an iron. Travel steamer for emergencies, more often used to refresh my hair.

      I used to tell my kids to stand in the laundry basket to undress, because they couldn’t get the clothes into the basket.

    • grabyourmotherskeys@lemmy.world
      link
      fedilink
      arrow-up
      1
      ·
      edit-2
      9 months ago

      Laundry: I use “laundry bags”, they cost about the same as hampers. I keep them in my bathroom and office (work from home) because I have to start work much earlier than my family so get dressed there in the morning. They are portable, don’t look that messy (just a black bag) and easy to tote around when full.

      Edit - forgot to mention (of course) that a big bonus for having one of these in my office which is near our kitchen and living area is I throw all the socks people take off and hoodies, dish cloths, etc into it which keeps the dog from stealing them and keeps the main area tidier.